“What passes for woman’s intuition is often nothing more than man’s transparency.” George Jean Nathan
A few thoughts…
On micros issues, such as dealing with infants or small children, intuition may be a very real phenomenon. I don’t know. It seems plausible to me though. I’ll defer to the men with children to confirm or deny this.
On the macro level however, I think it is complete horse hockey. It sounds a bit more respectable than, “I vote with my gina tingle” though.
As far as relations between men and women, I give it very little heed either. Perhaps in long term marriages where changes in mood and behavior might be more subtle and hard to notice. That could just be attributed to knowing someone exceptionally well though. Men, especially good men, are pretty transparent, just like Nathan says.
It seems to me intuition is often used when a woman doesn’t want to believe what her lyin eyes are telling her. Or when the right thing to do is inconvenient. A rationalization of the feelings she already has.
Maybe the believe in intuition is perpetuated by women that think they can control or figure out the mysterious bad boy types they often desire. “Nothing can happen to me that my finely tuned intuition won’t pick up on first!”
Sometimes I find it used to demonstrate how in touch a woman can be within an interpersonal relationship . That only a woman, with these special powers, could possibly read a situation so deftly. This can apply to spouses, coworkers or complete strangers.
A quick story…
I was once with an ex girlfriend at her friend’s place of employment. As we arrived, the door was locked, so we had to knock. When she opened the door, she informed us that she was there by herself, and locked the door because she saw a man lurking around the building. She then said something like “He might be harmless, but my woman’s intuition went off” or something like that. A throw away line that I didn’t give much thought to when she said it.
I then walked outside and happened to see “lurking” man. He could have been Charles Manson’s son. He looked like a deranged lunatic. Long greasy hair, ratty clothing, jerky nervous movements, the whole nine yards. Omegus Maximus.
Boy that woman’s intuition thing is a life saver. I’m sure without it, she would have invited him right in.
I had to laugh. It turns out Charlie Jr. had a reason for being where he was as well. I can’t remember exactly, but it seems like he was a relative of someone who worked in the same complex.
I also notice that the gina tingle somehow manages to overpower the intuition as well. I don’t think they can work at the same time.
O.J. Simpson sure didn’t lack for girlfriends, and he chopped his wife’s head off with a knife.
Check that. Maybe it just works in the opposite way many of us assume it is supposed to. For instance, a woman can “intuit” whether a man has the ability to make her gina tingle or not. As Roissy alluded to yesterday, Scott Peterson passes the intuition test, while Nat Schnerdling doesn’t.
Once a women doesn’t feel like she needs her vaunted intuition to figure a guy out, her gina stops a tinglin. Reason and logic can be icky mood killers.
I have noticed, in my own personal dealings with women, that candor and straightforwardness aren’t usually rewarded as much as cocky aloofness and playful teasing. Certainly exceptions though.
One last thing…
Does it surprise anyone that read this quote that George Jean Nathan worked with H.L. Mencken and had a reputation as a ladies man?
One last last thing…
If you find my skepticism to be that of a close minded neanderthal, take heart, you are not alone. Click here for a full throated defense of women’s intuition. It was so persuasive I may just have to rethink my narrow and petty assumptions.
If you don’t have time to read this tour de force, I’ll leave you with a quote that will change your life…
“Your emotions are the breadcrumbs to your essence”.